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Rev. Rowan Redbeard wrote:I have to say that I am honestly upset by this.
I understood the point of the game, and I brought up in the very beginning that I wasn't sure that I liked the idea, given what could happen. But I decided to go ahead with it, and asked people to be kind.
I let people know what names I liked, suggested ones based on those that had been proffered by others with the (apparently mistaken) assumption that it would give a better insight into what I was hoping for to those suggesting names so that they might find more titles that were fun and clever and entertaining without being derogatory or linguistically boring, and stated on multiple occasions that I had no desire to be saddled with a title that I disliked.
Perhaps some people don't care what title they have. If my title stays Prophet of Pastafarianism, or even disappears, that's fine by me. But I had honestly thought that by explaining my views in a polite manner that I would be listened to, and I might avoid being put into the position I now find myself in.
Should I have shouted at the top of my lungs? Should I have berated people for suggesting titles I didn't like?
I chose the higher ground, and I am saddened and angered by the lack of respect I have received for it.
(Cap: Yes, that title was on my list, but only because it was less abhorrent to me than many of the others. It was not "liked" so much as tolerated.)
Capellini wrote:You'd refuse to be your best friends bride's maid if the dress wasn't flattering, too, wouldn't you?*
Rev. Rowan Redbeard wrote:Cap, I had tried from the start to explain my feelings on this matter. Friends would have listened to that and accepted that, even if they didn't agree with it themselves.
Perhaps people here do view it as affectionate, but they have not lived my life, do not know how I came to be the person I am today, nor do they know how constant teasing, name-calling, hazing, and threats over the course of 10+ formative years has made me just a little sensitive towards that sort of thing.
I apologize if it seems that I am a party-pooper. I certainly did not expect this to turn into the major blow-up that is has become. I just wanted to encourage people to think of names they liked that were both fitting and considerate of my feelings and opinion.
Capellini wrote:Can I get a show of hands of people here who were not called names as a kid or young adult? No one here is calling you a name. You are turning this into something negative, not any of the people taking part. We just labeled a 14 year old kid the purveyor of TRIVIALITY. (Is Zank 15 yet, I can't keep track). He seems to be taking it in the spirit it was meant. Frankly, I can't possibly see how someone wanting to nickname you a deity of spam on a board where that is what you're known for can hurt your feelings, but if you were so unbelievably sensitive to the opinions of total strangers, you should have abstained from the game. None of that matters anymore, I'm abstaining for you.
But honestly, insisting that any nickname derived for you is meant to be mean or insulting is no way to get over childhood teasing. The longer you decide this is an issue for you, the longer it will be. Let it go.
Capellini wrote:Can I get a show of hands of people here who were not called names as a kid or young adult?
RRR wrote:I do not identify myself solely as a pirate
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